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This is a really well intentioned book, and I think hope it will be helpful to a lot of people I think the authors advice is generally very good However, nothing in here was particularly new to me, nor presented in a way that especially resonated In fact, I found the sort of Tumblr y, fandom lite writing style feels tl dr quoting Cassandra Clare, good god to be a little too cutesy Like, it was just a half beat off rhythm from the kind of humor and relatablecontent that does resonat This is a really well intentioned book, and I think hope it will be helpful to a lot of people I think the authors advice is generally very good However, nothing in here was particularly new to me, nor presented in a way that especially resonated In fact, I found the sort of Tumblr y, fandom lite writing style feels tl dr quoting Cassandra Clare, good god to be a little too cutesy Like, it was just a half beat off rhythm from the kind of humor and relatablecontent that does resonate with me, and that slight offness gratedthan if this had been a cold and purely academic work.I can definitely see the audience though, and I hope it helps them, because in general terms, I think the authors are spot on about why modern women are stressed the fuck out Hint it s the patriarchy, stupid It might be a feminist book but the idea do work for both genders I would have given this book 5 stars, except Emily and Amelia are only talking to half the population Yes many women have had life and choices or lack of choices and experienced hardshipthen man over the year Things are getting better but are not perfect yet, but as the ladies says everyone s experience is different and a whole gender should not be judged by the few or the worst examples of it.I disagree with the premise It might be a feminist book but the idea do work for both genders I would have given this book 5 stars, except Emily and Amelia are only talking to half the population Yes many women have had life and choices or lack of choices and experienced hardshipthen man over the year Things are getting better but are not perfect yet, but as the ladies says everyone s experience is different and a whole gender should not be judged by the few or the worst examples of it.I disagree with the premise that woman are naturallygiving it nicer then men Let s use the body shaming example in this book, notice it was the women doing this to other woman This happens a lot to boys straight from primary school, I have 3 boys and every day atleast one of them have come back to tell me a mean thing the girls said to them about their appearance or even background.The shame of all this gender biased book is if that was taken out I would agree with 90% of the research and ideas in this book The practical ideas would work just as well for either gender However I think many men might be put off reading it after the introduction I would quite Bruce Lee and say Take what is useful, and disregard what is not The reason being many of the ideas are very effective.This is a great book of busting through the silent kill that is stress, if it was not so gender biased I would have no problem giving it 5 stars I would say if you are going to put a book out to just half the population put it in the title before people buy the book As the authors would say, ugh No really, I counted about five ughs in the initial skim through of the book.This felt not only whiny and unprofessional, but also as if they were setting me up not to take it seriously Beyond that, it was hard to.Everyone is talking about this, so while I don t particularly relish giving something a poor review, I just don t want you to rush out and buy it like I did without knowing what you re getting into.Firstly, the research presented throughout was thi As the authors would say, ugh No really, I counted about five ughs in the initial skim through of the book.This felt not only whiny and unprofessional, but also as if they were setting me up not to take it seriously Beyond that, it was hard to.Everyone is talking about this, so while I don t particularly relish giving something a poor review, I just don t want you to rush out and buy it like I did without knowing what you re getting into.Firstly, the research presented throughout was thin They deliberately conflate their subjects, on the basis of making for a better story, but this highlights their faux dialogue and made me wonder, if women really are asking these questions, why they couldn t quote the actual subjects Why make up a make believe narrative Secondly, the conclusion is that the cause of women s stress is the patriarchy I m serious That s their conclusion Ok, even if I can buy into that That does not explain why men would have stress If the cause of our stress is that women are expected to give every drop of your humanity and for the record, this feels like a lazy characterization of the male female dynamic they re getting at There is nuance here I know no man who expects the women in his life to give every drop of her humanity in support of them, no matter the cost It felt cheap and capitalizing on the very real metoo resist shepersisted moment, agenda driven as opposed to actually dealing with stress problem If you wanted to write a book decrying the patriarchy, fine Do that Just don t disguise it as a book on how to deal with stress.Finally, the tl dr sections Call me old fashioned, I just don t really want cutesy stuff in my book when you re touting a PhD on the cover Not to mention I m never here for your suggestion a reader might not read your own book.Actually, I take it back I m glad those were at the end of each chapter because what they did well was to actually summarize their points there So well, in fact, you really could drive yourself to the bookstore, stand in the aisle, and read those sections and you really would get the gist of the book.I ll save you the time for even that and tell you their best secret for dealing with stress Get ready it s groundbreaking exercise Not that we ve all known for years, decades, that moving your body is great for stress That s their big secret.A few of their other secrets plan problem solving measures for what you can control I know Really groundbreaking stuff here Stay positive about the things you can t control Or, give up I m really serious here I m not making any of this up Find a larger meaning in life but don t be a giver that s where your stress is coming from See yourself as hot Again, I feel compelled to tell you I m literally not making any of this up for comedic effect Connect but remember, don t give to much Create a bubble of love Don t feel guilty about sleeping exercise and sleep groundbreaking Keep a calendar Deal with the cause of stress.I am so sorry I m seeing this book everywhere I don t think it will be helpful to women It s very discussable It s very enraging It will sell well and be all over Instagram And I just don t think it s going to do any good for any real women experiencing real stress Their causes are flawed their solutions are anything but groundbreaking A dance party to Whitney Houston in your living room won t change your stress This read like the worst cliche of the genre If The Onion had written a book about women s stress, this would have been the result This book is filled with so much information, and I ve been obsessively recommending it and quoting it to just about every woman I know It s got so much good and general information about the stress cycle, and how to deal with it And anxiety, and burnout, and loneliness, and and and A lot of the information applies to all humans, but this book addresses the unique stress related to being a female type person None of that stress will be surprising to women, but this is the first time I can This book is filled with so much information, and I ve been obsessively recommending it and quoting it to just about every woman I know It s got so much good and general information about the stress cycle, and how to deal with it And anxiety, and burnout, and loneliness, and and and A lot of the information applies to all humans, but this book addresses the unique stress related to being a female type person None of that stress will be surprising to women, but this is the first time I can think of that I ve gotten good advice about what to do about it Good, science based advice that doesn t involve just taking a bubble bath, taking a deep breath, and plunging back into the fray.In this intensely depressing moment of history, with Trump and Kavanaugh and Weinstein and and and this book made me feel a little hopeful I ll need to revisit it regularly, because it involves a lot of elements, but it rang true I hope the women I know and love will read it It s so worth the time.Thanks to the publisher for providing me with an advance copy Someday I will look back on this time in my life and point to this book as when it all changed Yes It s that good I m a huge fan of Emily Nagoski s Come As You Are In it, she briefly explored unlocking the stress cycle and it gave me so much to think about A whole book co written with her sister dedicated to the topic Music to my ears and boy, did it deliver.The introduction and first chapter blew my mind, right from the get go and it only got better from there There are so many takeaways Someday I will look back on this time in my life and point to this book as when it all changed Yes It s that good I m a huge fan of Emily Nagoski s Come As You Are In it, she briefly explored unlocking the stress cycle and it gave me so much to think about A whole book co written with her sister dedicated to the topic Music to my ears and boy, did it deliver.The introduction and first chapter blew my mind, right from the get go and it only got better from there There are so many takeaways that I don t even know where to start The beauty of this book is the way the Nagoskis lay out their insights The chapters build on each other in a way that allows you to digest the information but also figure out how to incorporate it in to your life.I wish this book had existed 15 years ago I don t know if I d still be a social worker but I would have managed my career differently This book helped me see how it didn t matter how airtight my self care practices were and why burnout happened anyway It also showed me why I ve been exhausted the last few years, even though I havemargin than ever I did not know to label my current experience as burnout but it makes so much sense I have not done a good job of completing the stress cycle and now I haveideas and tools on how to do that.I also appreciate the way they name and call out the patriarchy It s a huge layer of what women experience and I hadn t thought about the specific and pernicious ways it impacts burnout and my sense of well being Yes, I can point to the ways the patriarchy has negatively impacted my life and the complicated emotions I carry or are dragged up by the news But since this is how it s always been, even if the metoo movement is starting to bring about some changes, I never thought about the year after year toll It was so helpful and validating to read those sections and be reminded that it s not okay.One chapter I want to mention is The Bikini Industrial Complex, which taught me that the Body Mass Index BMI is complete junk It was created by a panel of nine people, seven of whom were employed by weight loss clinics WEIGHT LOSS CLINICS This was infuriating to read about I haven t stopped railing against the lobbyists who sold us out and and every doctor who took junk science at face value and used it against their patients Screw them all.Clearly the book made me angry in places stupid patriarchy But it was also extremely moving and engaging I laughed and I cried Burnout was not just a game changer It was life altering Every person who identifies as a woman would benefit from reading it I m so grateful to Emily and Amelia for writing it Emily and Amelia Nagoski are talented enough in their chosen fields but they missed their calling as professional audiobook narrators They pack a lot of info and wisdom into their Burnout book but, very importantly, they are really fun to listen to.This book is basically for any and every woman making their way through life and shoveling the shit that comes with it I wouldn t say I m burnt out but stressed Hell, yes This, along with Emily Nagoski s Come As You Are should be required re Emily and Amelia Nagoski are talented enough in their chosen fields but they missed their calling as professional audiobook narrators They pack a lot of info and wisdom into their Burnout book but, very importantly, they are really fun to listen to.This book is basically for any and every woman making their way through life and shoveling the shit that comes with it I wouldn t say I m burnt out but stressed Hell, yes This, along with Emily Nagoski s Come As You Are should be required reading The world would be a happier place.For those looking for a no nonsense, shoot from the hip self help book specifically aimed at women and the extra challenges we face you ve found it The Nagoskis tackle topics such as stress and how to process it, body awareness and acceptance, gender discrimination, racial discrimination, finding meaning in life, and overall making you a better you It s inclusive they acknowledge the gender spectrum and transwomen , real, empowering, and they bring the science and studies to back it up.On a side note, the other day I picked up a self help book that happened to be written by a man By chapter two I was like, Nope Done reading The book, not meaning to, came from the viewpoint of a male privileged status and I just couldn t deal with another, the world is so hard and here s how you win because the guy was already 3 4 the way up the mountain In contrast, this book was singing to me on high and was a refreshing oasis from all that blather.Do yourself a favor and listen to these ladies Your self will thank you The only reason I picked up this book is because I went to the bookstore to pick up a different book by the same author called Come as You Are The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life a truly outstanding, mind blowing exploration of female sexuality and the female orgasm yesplease While I was there, though, I saw that Emily Nagoski and her twin sister, Amelia just released a new book called Burnout The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Whaaaat A book on how to The only reason I picked up this book is because I went to the bookstore to pick up a different book by the same author called Come as You Are The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life a truly outstanding, mind blowing exploration of female sexuality and the female orgasm yesplease While I was there, though, I saw that Emily Nagoski and her twin sister, Amelia just released a new book called Burnout The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Whaaaat A book on how to calm the eff down Sold I read Burnout in two days, and holy smokes wow, what a game changer Probably the most important thing I learned about was completing the stress cycle how even if you eliminate your stress trigger e.g., your kids aren t yelling at you any because you are letting them watch a movie , you still have to deal with the stress that s floating around in your body It literally, physically needs someplace to go You have to workout, cry, laugh, breathe deeply, or create Whatever it is, that pent up energy has to move through and OUT of you for you to actually feel calm again And if you don t allow yourself to complete the stress cycle, you basically just walk around all day every day with that constant frantic hum of electricity buzzing through your body We ve all been there, and it s maddening.Though the advice above is applicable to both women AND men, be warned that the Nagoski twins spend a lot of time talking about The Patriarchy ugh They argue and use scientific studies to prove that women have been conditioned to ignore cues from their bodies push themselves too hard to serve everyone but themselves hate themselves for not being docile, emotion less helpmates and then accept blame when the world tells them they re crazy for not being able to meet every impossible demand made of them This section is hard hitting but incredibly freeing, I ve got to say Men might have a different take on it, though The last and most practical section is all about how to change this stress mess we re now in I won t mention all of their suggestions, but some of my favorites are Sleep 8 to 9 hours at night AND make time to rest during the day Connect with people who get you The small section here on gaslighting was so eye opening for me Acknowledge and accept the madwoman in the attic who constantly tells you that you aren t measuring up Find a way to become her friend Show yourself some compassion, even when especially when the healing hurts.In short, I loved Burnout It was the perfect book to read at this particular moment in my life a breath of fresh air that helped me, well, breathe I m recommending it to every woman I know and even a couple men This book is such a disappointment Buckets of crazy feminist bs in it This sucks as a help book.It started out pretty good but turned into an annoying tirade about patriarchy and an obesity glorifying mantra.I was stressed out just reading it The messages are a copy paste from girls magazines find joy, not happinness, connection and passion are key, etc etc The villain is the patriarchy only, and being overweight is awesome, because we are all such special snowflakes I hear you, dear auth This book is such a disappointment Buckets of crazy feminist bs in it This sucks as a help book.It started out pretty good but turned into an annoying tirade about patriarchy and an obesity glorifying mantra.I was stressed out just reading it The messages are a copypaste from girls magazines find joy, not happinness, connection and passion are key, etc etc The villain is the patriarchy only, and being overweight is awesome, because we are all such special snowflakes I hear you, dear author None should be discriminated because of their appearance But why, not once do you mention the medical issues overweight entails I wonder why, dear overweight author.This particular part of the book annoyed me to no end, because Nagoski does not talk about the real issue at hand, that being the fact that most societies discriminate people because of their appearance and maybe try to see the reasons for that The Nagoski sisters just are just stuck at the point hammering into your head that you re awesome, no matter how unhealthy your lifestyle may be to your own body It feels like this book is their message board to all those who bullied them because of their weight Well, that s not what I was paying for The world changes The nonsense of discrimination towards women is NOT status quo any everywhere I just need to ask about the gender quote in an interview for a new job, and the male interviewer starts sweating immediately We get pampered just because of our sex That is not equality.There s nothing eye opening in this book None of the promised helpful advice Not a recommendation from me (EBOOK) Ø Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle ¾ This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men and provides a simple, science based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a joyful lifeBurnout Many women in America have experienced it What s expected of women and what it s really like to be a woman in today s world are two very different things and women exhaust themselves trying to close the gap between them How can you love your body when every magazine cover has ten diet tips for becoming your best self How do you lean in at work when you re already operating atpercent and aren t recognized for it How can you live happily and healthily in a sexist world that is constantly telling you you re too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we re up against and show us how to fight back In these pages you ll learn what you can do to complete the biological stress cycle and return your body to a state of relaxation how to manage the monitor in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration how the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies and how to defend yourself against it why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are keys to recovering and preventing burnoutWith the help of eye opening science, prescriptive advice, and helpful worksheets and exercises, all women will find something transformative in these pages and will be empowered to create positive change Emily and Amelia aren t here to preach the broad platitudes of expensive self care or insist that we strive for the impossible goal of having it all Instead, they tell us that we are enough, just as we are and that wellness, true wellness, is within our reach This is the feminist book on stress I never knew I needed I would never have picked up this book if I were judging its cover, first for the breast cancer ribbon pink of the cover and then for the title I blame the publishers rather than the authors for this, though, because once inside the book is searingly feminist and offers excellent examples and tips for how to complete the stress cycle so that you live to smash the patriarchy another day I don t think of myself as someone who is bur This is the feminist book on stress I never knew I needed I would never have picked up this book if I were judging its cover, first for the breast cancer ribbon pink of the cover and then for the title I blame the publishers rather than the authors for this, though, because once inside the book is searingly feminist and offers excellent examples and tips for how to complete the stress cycle so that you live to smash the patriarchy another day I don t think of myself as someone who is burnt out, and yet I found myself relating to so much of the book I loved the explanation of the stress cycle, human giver syndrome, and the science the book offers on these things, as well as the summaries and worksheets I even made a copy of the chapter titled The Game is Rigged to pass out to friends The book got a little corny sometimes though it didn t need the gimmicky internet speak it lapsed into TL DR Overall, I really appreciated it and I think it should be sold as an antidote to Girl, Wash your Face, in a two pack with Rebecca Traister s Rage